Is any of this familiar to you?
- “I really want to meet people, but I’m blocked and I do not know what to talk about. I get the fear of staying blank or making a fool of myself “
- “I am very shy and it is fatal when I have to be the center of attention. I wish I trusted more in myself “
- “It’s hard for me to say no and defend my opinions. I feel that people are going to be angry with me or that I will disappoint them “
- “I have good ideas, but I hate having to sell them and I suffer every time I have to convince someone”
If it sounds to you, you have come to the right place.
My name is Dipsita and in TruthQuestion I help shy and introverted people to overcome their fears and get a charismatic personality.
But let’s do the presentations well and let me summarize my story.
I was born 34 years ago in Barcelona and from a very young age I was a shy boy. Of those who sit at the end of the class and see in frustration as their friends go out with the girls they like.
Although I was convinced that I had self-esteem, I actually protected her by hiding my emotions and avoiding situations in which they could reject me. And is that when you live in your comfort zone no one can hurt you or make you see that you are not the kind of person you want to be.
When I got to college everything got worse. I started inventing excuses not to go to parties if I knew few people, my shyness paralyzed me when I had to be the center of attention and I stopped expressing my feelings for fear of being vulnerable.
At the end of the race I was named the best student in my class, but it did not help me at all. I barely had friends and I panicked talking to strangers.
Months later my girlfriend ended up leaving me without waiting for me. Although later I understood that he had been sending me all the signs of the world, that was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
Angry with the world, I started to study all the social psychology books I could find and I spent whole months reading studies that helped me improve my social skills.
I surrounded myself with charismatic people who were authentic social imams to learn their habits and behaviors and with the support of my father, professor of psychology, I postgraduated in Emotional Intelligence.
Little by little I was noticing the results. In my work or when I went out on weekends he challenged me to practice what I had learned, and so I began to feel comfortable initiating conversations with strangers or defending my opinions with assertiveness.
I was no longer the shy guy who kept quiet in the conversations, nor the person who avoided going to social events or raise their hands in class for fear of making a fool of himself. I was no longer afraid to show my feelings or express my true opinions.
Yes, I had managed to change my life.
Seven years later, when I was collaborating with a company specializing in social psychology giving workshops and lecturing, I decided to create the TruthQuestion project.
What Social Ability Will Serve You
Imagine you were able to:
- Feel relaxed and relaxed meeting new people or being the center of attention
- Be certain that you can create an exciting conversation in any situation, even with complete strangers
- Express your emotions and opinions with the assurance that they will be respected, without misunderstandings or conflicts
- Read the body language of people to empathize with them and know exactly how they are feeling
Can you imagine it?
In TruthQuestion I want to help you to really get it. In this blog you will not find classic self-help articles with a rehash of positive phrases or basic tips that do not specify anything.
Everything I write is supported by scientific studies carried out in hundreds of participants and has shown that it works. Here you will find something more than my opinion or the same thing that you have read and it has not given you any results.
Here you will find practical science.
The most important thing in your life
There is a truth for which they did not prepare us.
They told us that if we were good people, we studied and tried hard, we would end up finding good jobs, creating a great family and living happily ever after.
They cheated us
And it is that studies like the one that followed three generations of participants for 75 years do not stop showing that what will really make you happy is not having the job of your dreams, an iron health, being recognized internationally or having enough money to do what you want.
What separates 10% of the happiest population are their social relationships.
It is the quality of your relationships that will make you feel valued, loved and respected. What will support you in difficult times and allow you to share moments of immense joy. It is what will help you pursue your professional dreams and take advantage of the opportunities that come your way.
Fortunately, science has also shown that social skills and emotional intelligence can be learned. Although many people believe they are innate because they do not remember learning them, they did so during their childhood.
And you can do the same now.
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